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Two Iris stories

1. At 31 weeks, the upcoming baby is breech. I was explaining to Iris where the baby's head is and how I hope he gets turned around soon. She asked, "Would the baby be okay if he came out here (pointing just below my left ribcage)?"

2. We went to see a reptile show at the library earlier this week. The presenter brought out a California king snake and asked if anyone would like to hold a snake. Iris volunteered and was picked (probably because she seemed to be one of the older, calmer kids there). She did a great job following directions and holding the snake with both hands. The presenter then put the king snake away and brought out a large python. He had Iris hold the tail end while he held the head end, and they took the snake around for kids to pet. Afterwards, they came back up to the front of the room, and the presenter explained to Iris that really the best way to hold a large snake was around your neck and shoulders. Iris's eyes got real big, and she said, "No, thank you!". The guy started to drape the snake around her anyhow, and she ducked her head and stepped away, repeating loudly, "No, thank you!" The guy responded with, "Oh, he's not going to hurt you. It's okay.", but Iris just shook her head and said "No, thank you" one more time. The guy stopped pressing the issue and demonstrated with the snake around his own neck and shoulders.
As we were walking home, Iris asked me if I would've put the snake around my neck. I said that I would never put a big snake around my neck, but if I'd been standing up there in the front of the room, I would've been too scared to tell the guy "No, thank you" and I would've let him put the snake around me even though I wouldn't have liked that. I was really proud of her for being able to say No to something she was uncomfortable with and for doing so firmly and politely.


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Jul. 20th, 2013 03:23 am (UTC)
On (2), yeah for Iris!

And on (1), turn baby turn.
Jul. 20th, 2013 03:44 am (UTC)
Re: story 2 — wow. Well done, Iris!

Re: story 1 — I love her apparent faith that having someone erupt from just below your ribs wouldn't be any serious problem for _you_. ;)
Jul. 20th, 2013 04:06 am (UTC)
w00t for clear and insistent establishment of consent limits! I definitely know both kids who are reluctant to articulate their personal boundaries and kids who do so loudly and abrasively, and while I'm inclined to encourage the latter between those options, it's great that Iris can strike a happy medium.
Jul. 20th, 2013 07:10 am (UTC)
I'd be proud.
Jul. 20th, 2013 11:40 pm (UTC)
Wow--way to go Iris! I'm also really proud of her!

I'm also really disappointed in the snake handler for not taking her first no for an answer. That's no way to treat *anyone,* let alone a kid. Shame on him.
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